Over eager dating
If you're texting someone and they're totally keen to chat with you but somehow miraculously don't see your next three texts about grabbing dinner, that's a warning sign.
Maybe they just want the convenience of a sexting buddy without any of the actual work, and if that's not what you're looking for, you might be better off finding someone who seems eager to see you IRL. Maybe things were going swell at first and the two of you had long, memorable conversations about your college days or family life.
Dating apps and matchmakers want to know dozens of things about us—our favorite foods, movies, hobbies, etc.—all to help find us a good match.
But their questions may be missing an essential ingredient that scientists now say could be the key to a successful match: attachment style.
Though there are endless reasons why someone might opt to ghost, chances are, the guy or girl in question is simply trying to avoid conflict or awkward questions about why things aren't working out.
Sure, it's immature, but unfortunately there's not a lot you can do about it except hold your head high and move on.
If you see a pattern and truly feel in your gut that they're uninterested, beware that this person could easily just cut off all contact with no notice.
If every time you hang out, he or she suddenly has a reason to disappear even though you've only had one drink, there's a chance that they're mentally preparing to hit the road.
It's never easy to wrap your head around why someone would cease all communication and pretend you don't exist — at best, it's mega-frustrating and, at worst, it's degrading.
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If you can't reach them post-ghost via text or Ok Cupid, it's much easier for them to avoid your questions.
Similarly, if they constantly disappear and reappear — either on dating apps or in your inbox — it's clear that they're indecisive and haven't yet made up their mind about whether or not they want to date you (or maybe date, period).