Dating an emotional vampire
While it feels like love and is initially quite joyful, it is more like an infection or an addiction.And it is something that only the abusive person can supply.This Is Part Of The Abusive Website A lack of empathy is a major sign that the one you love is abusive or has a personality disorder according to the current thinking in psychology.But I think this view only scratches the surface and that the truth is much more sinister.
They have no understanding of a partnership, for example, in which emotions and vulnerabilities are freely expressed and shared. Abusive people instead see everything in terms of control.
In another simple everyday example, my ex-wife, after ten years of marriage, began to correct my way of speaking.
Being an English major, I knew how to talk, yet she decided she did not like certain phrases I used and told me not to say them.
Every couple of months she would add another expression to her list.
Her constant vigilance and corrections made me self-conscious and shut down my normally expressive nature.